The truth about consooming
Ok, I get it. Plastic toy figurines bad, superhero movies bad.
What about the rest?
Why the fuck are there so many lonely people?
Consumerism is all about giving you the illusion of fulfillment, while keeping you sad and lonely -- just another cog in the machine. You WILL inevitably fill that void with products, and meaningless crap; you may not agree, but that crap is the source of YOUR loneliness.
I see it on a daily basis. I see people all over the internet who've never been in a relationship, because they don't know how to talk to women. There's a caveat -- they've spent their entire childhood and teenage years doing the same thing -- being invisible, sulking, playing video games and watching anime, consuming every damn thing they could get their hand son, without asking any questions.
I'm a kid of the 90's, so video games were kind of a niche thing back then, and they were very few places where we could play. We'd go at bars that had consoles (MK4, Street Fighter EX Plus Alpha were a big deal back then), all while being able to play pool, darts and be surrounded by drunks and all kind of dubious individuals. Internet cafés were a huge thing back in the early 2000s... everyone was doing it. We were not isolated. We'd meet up, have a few beers and smoke a pack of cigs while some dude was setting up mIRC bots in the background and we'd flood channels in a joint effort.
But in all my life, neither did I nor my friends ever had an issue with talking to girls. In fact, it was kind of shameful (we'd just poke fun at those guys) to be a virgin if you're 16. The funny thing is, none of us lost our virginity to a hooker or something like that, and none of us had some supermodel looks.
None of the guys I spent my teenage years with are single, socially awkward or anything like that -- sure, birds of a feather flock together; let me rephrase it -- NONE of the people from my age group that I know are single/have been single for a long period of time. Hell, I even have some friends who are less fortunate in the genetic lottery. I mean, there was this guy who had really REALLY thick glasses (-13 or so, if I remember correctly), was really short (160-165 cm), and somehow, SOMEHOW, he's currently married with a very beautiful woman -- truth be told, he was quite a smart and adventurous bro.
I come from an ex-USSR country, so it obviously wasn't all about the consumerist culture. I was born a few years before the collapse of the Soviet Union, so the country was still reeling from the fall of USSR. Scarcity was still a thing, people would collaborate in order to buy stuff from the West, charlatans and scammers were rampant, but there was a sense of genuine community in spite of that.
But look at how the obsession of gathering meaningless things has turned basically everyone into assholes. Now more than ever, people would rather expose their naked body to the world for money and fame, instead of having a decent, honest job (men also do this) -- the sad part is that people pay for this shit. People pay to have the illusion of closeness with someone who'd send nudes for money.
People would pay to watch people eat in order to fill in the loneliness of their own lives.
People pay to hear other people touch stuff and make annoying chewing sounds in order to feel the presence of a human being -- I don't buy that stimulation BS the ASMR community and world renowned psychologists keep pushing forward; they're too scared to admit what it actually is. It's a way for lonely people to cope with the loneliness.
People would mindlessly lose themselves in fucking video games instead of going out and enjoying actual human company. They'd rather lose thousands of precious hours every year instead of actually doing something useful with that time. Go to a party, mingle with people. Not all people are vain assholes who wouldn't talk with a complete random stranger -- I, for sure, am not one of those people, and neither is any person I know. That's just a stereotype most people tell themselves in order to reinforce their beliefs instead of confronting the reality.
People would rather watch hours upon hours of videos on "How to be a man" or "How to pick up girls" and adhere to some retarded redpill philosophy instead of truly accepting the fact that women are not the culprit (unless you only want to date supermodels, which is the case for most of the guys), you are. They'd rather listen to some imbecile spouting nonsensical cultspeak with imaginary pills instead of accepting the fact that most of them are actually shitty people to begin with. "Hypergamy", "looksmatch", "foids", "Chad/Stacy", "cock carousel" and other incel-like terminology are often used in order to vilify women and blame them for the fact that a 1 or 2 guy can't date a 10.
People would fool themselves that they are improving for some kind of enlightened reason, instead of admitting that whatever improvement they're doing is only to be accepted and loved.
You reap what you sow.
If you're lonely, it's your fault. Years of mindlessly consuming bullshit have led you to this point. Years of video games and Youtube, no actual human interaction, watching porn all day, anime and shit like that. This isn't about politics, religion or anything else. It's about you. Do some deep soul searching and think why people don't like/are interested in you. You'll be surprised. Be honest with yourself and assume responsibility at least once in your life.
I really don't know how that feels, because I've never been lonely. I can see how most people on this forum are really fucking lonely.
Stop playing so many video games.
Stop spending hours upon hours at the gym. You know you're there because you want to max out your chances with women, not because you're some enlightened being; stop fooling yourself. Yeah, I hit the gym 4-5 times a week but just because I've been a semi-pro athlete my entire life. I'm sure there are exceptions, but we're not talking about those. Most people at my gym are loners. Every gym I've been to in the past 20 years had them. Usually 70% of the people at gyms are divorced guys who want to get back into the dating scene and guys who want to get girls. Sure, there are a lot of unhappy people who are depressive (not clinically depressed) and go to the gym for therapeutic reasons -- but that still does not address the underlying issue. Sure, you mingle at the gym, but is it enough?
Stop following Youtubers who really don't give a shit if you live or die (to them you're nothing more than another source of income).
Stop trying to improve yourself by following a set of arbitrary rules. They don't work. It'll take more than a few tips and tricks from various idiots who only want your money -- it's mostly trial and error and about blending in, not desperately wanting to fit in. I've seen many wannabe "alpha" guys who were trying so hard to impress that everyone would smell them from a mile away.
Stop blaming your loneliness on other people. There are millions of people who don't have the looks, charisma or intelligence of highly successful people yet still lead a normal life with friends and a loving and caring family.
That's it for me.
I wish you guys all the best.
submitted by ImigrantEmigrant